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Okay. This post hit me, it's insanely sad and crazy at the same time. The guy posting is actually knowledgable on the topic, he just has NO idea HOW to get his point across.

Topic Question:
"my gf is 13 and im 13 she wants to have kids plz tell me how to talk her out of it.
I need some help i dont kno wat to to .. plz"

After a few pages of people not giving much more than "dont" or "do it". I decided to give him some hard facts to help him make up an argument.

My Response:
"Honestly at 13 she must have a brain ailment or have learned NOTHING.
At that age there is an increased chance that giving birth to a child will cause issues for the child, issues for the mother, major stress, a change in lifestyle, an increased chance of death for both, and will ALWAYS change the mother no matter what.

She might have to drop out of school, have the issue of whether she keeps the child, you'll both have unnecessary stress, and possibly heart break if you do have to give the child up. It would change both of you for the worse, and your life would NOT be the same.

At 13 you should NOT be thinking about sex, ..... okay I lied, maybe thinking... but god dont try to have a fcking child. You honestly just need to straight out tell her "I dont think we should do this" or "We're way to young for that" or "I really dont want a child."
Her reaction may be hard, but this isnt something you should rush into... definitely not at 13, you cant even get a job to support the child.

If she doesnt respond well and still is trying to push you into it, she obviously doesnt respect your opinion and sad to say, you're relationship may not work.

If she is your first, and you have these complications, you're going to have to think hard about what this could mean in the future, and about her judgement... and honestly if it's right to keep it going. If she REALLY wants a child that much, you should love her enough NOT to do it. Even if she wants it, she could die. And it would definitely fck up her life. If she leaves you because of it, you did her well anyways.

I wish you luck in making a choice."
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In PM I also sent him a story about what happened to one of my old friends when she got pregnant young. He decided I had helped him enough, and actually called his girlfriend over to his house and made her read what I said.
I have yet to know what happened, But I hope it helped... god she should NOT throw her life away like that. Sure it's her decision, but if he doesnt want to... he shouldnt be pushed into it.


Anyways that's a news report on a kinda ironically sad issue xD